Reflections with Andy - Ecclesiastes 7: 1-14 - The House of Suffering

While suffering and pain are never pleasant things to go through, there is much that they can teach us

In this Wednesday reflection on Ecclesiastes 7:1–14, the Teacher’s seemingly morbid observations — that the house of mourning is better than the house of feasting, sorrow better than laughter — are rescued from mere pessimism and read as genuine wisdom about suffering and formation. The reflection is careful not to romanticize suffering or suggest we should seek it out; Christianity calls for life, not martyrdom. But suffering, when it comes, has a way of refining us, forming us, and pulling us closer to God in ways that easier seasons simply cannot. Drawing on Stephen Colbert’s striking observation — you grow to love the thing you wished had never happened — and the lived experience of painful rebukes from trusted mentors, the reflection makes the case that we learn our most important lessons not in the feasting but in the mourning. For those in a hard season: God has not left you, his rod and staff are with you, and Romans 8:28 is still true. For those in an easier season: hold onto what the hard times taught you, because those lessons are worth keeping.

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Good morning! Great to be with you on this Wednesday. If you’re watching through the usual channels — YouTube, Facebook, the Substack link — you’ll notice I’m recording from my computer today instead of my phone setup. The reason is simple: I need a very tight shot to avoid subjecting you to the complete and utter chaos that is my office right now. There are boxes everywhere. A friend commented on Facebook that his former pastor’s wife once said his office looked like a yard sale hit by a tornado. That’s where I am. If anyone wants to show up with a pair of matches, I’d welcome it. Hopefully by the end of the day there’ll be some order to this. Right now I’m not feeling it.

Today we’re in Ecclesiastes chapter 7, verses 1 through 14 — and our guy is really feeling his oats. Let’s read:

“A good name is better than precious ointment, and the day of death than the day of birth. It is better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting; for this is the end of everyone, and the living will lay it to heart. Sorrow is better than laughter, for by sadness of countenance the heart is made glad. The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning; but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth. It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise than to hear the song of fools. For like the crackling of thorns under a pot, so is the laughter of fools; this also is vanity. Surely oppression makes the wise foolish, and a bribe corrupts the heart. Better is the end of a thing than its beginning; the patient in spirit are better than the proud in spirit. Do not be quick to anger, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. Do not say, ‘Why were the former days better than these?’ for it is not from wisdom that you ask this. Wisdom is as good as an inheritance, an advantage to those who see the sun. For the protection of wisdom is like the protection of money, and the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom gives life to the one who possesses it. Consider the work of God; who can make straight what he has made crooked? In the day of prosperity be joyful, and in the day of adversity consider: God has made the one as well as the other, so that mortals may not find out anything that will come after them.”

Now — before you dismiss this as just more grunge-era brooding from the Teacher, I want to push back a little and say there’s genuine wisdom here, especially in verse 3: sorrow is better than laughter, for by sadness of countenance the heart is made glad.

Let me be clear: I am not saying suffering is good. I am not saying we should seek it out. My professor used to say Christianity doesn’t call for martyrdom — Christianity calls for life, and we can do more for Jesus living than dead. So no, we are not Christian masochists looking to suffer for the sake of it.

But here’s what I do think is true: suffering can refine us. It can form us. It can pull us closer to God in ways that easy seasons simply cannot.

There’s a line from an Everclear song — yes, we’re going there — from I Will Buy You a New Life, where he says: I hate those people who love to tell you money is the root of all that kills — they have never been poor, they have never had the joy of a welfare Christmas. I love that line, because it names something real: there are things you only know from the inside of difficulty. You can’t fully understand the valley of the shadow of death until you’ve walked through it. And it isn’t until you’re walking through it that you find out whether God’s rod and staff actually comfort you — and they do.

Stephen Colbert said something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: you grow to love the thing you wished had never happened. That’s a remarkable statement. Our suffering forms us. The grief, the loss, the hard seasons, the painful rebukes from people who cared enough to tell us the truth — all of it shapes us into who we are now. And who we are now is someone seeking to grow closer to Jesus, spending time in his word, wanting to be more faithful. That person was formed, at least in part, by the hard things.

It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise than to hear the song of fools. I’ve been rebuked by mentors I deeply respected, and it was not fun. Not one bit. But it was exactly what I needed, and I’m better for it. The house of feasting is fine — nobody’s turning down a good dinner. But we often learn the more important lessons in the house of mourning.

So if you’re in a difficult season right now — be encouraged. God has not left you. You are not alone. His rod and staff are with you, even if you can’t feel them yet. Pray, listen, learn, and trust that Romans 8:28 is still true: God can bring something good out of everything, even this.

And for those of us in an easier season right now — rejoice. But don’t forget what the hard times taught you. Those lessons are worth keeping.

Tomorrow we’ll pick up with more of chapter 7. Have a great day!